One pregnancy milestone I’ve been both dreading and eagerly awaiting has been the Baby Shower. Even before my miscarriage, I’ve hated them. For some strange reason, women are the ones who traditionally organize and attend the baby shower. The father – and all men – are usually left out completely (until it’s time to assemble everything). During the many-hours-long event, the mother is “showered” with gifts for the baby, and guests are expected to ooh and aah as she opens each one. Everyone participates in mind-numbing games (like Guess What Candy Bar Was Melted Into This Diaper to Make it Look Like Poop), while enjoying themed snacks and refreshments. Women tell war stories about birth and projectile diarrhea, at the same time crooning about how the whole baby thing is a beautiful miracle. So, yeah…. traditional baby showers are not my cup of tea.
At the same time, I wanted – NEEDED – to celebrate our baby with friends and family. We’ve been through so much to get to this point, and our family and friends have been wonderfully supportive.
And that’s exactly why I insisted that our “shower” part ways with tradition. I wanted my husband to be there, and for it to be a true family and friends event, with men, women, and children. No stupid games. Just a simple celebration with the people we care about. The only traditional thing about it was gifts for the baby. I felt a little weird about it, but honestly, babies are expensive (especially after IVF), and we could really use the help. But, we didn’t force everyone to watch as we opened them.
Overall, it was a fun and emotional afternoon. Cousins who I hadn’t seen in years were there, which made me cry. I was positively overwhelmed by how many people came to celebrate with us, and spent most of the party on the verge of happy tears. I did have one panicky moment where I couldn’t help but think What will we do with all of this stuff if something bad happens to the baby? What if something bad is happening right now? How horribly ironic would that be? The thoughts quickly dissipated, and I was quite relieved later when the baby wouldn’t stop kicking and dancing (even though she kept me up all night).
35 Weeks Update
How far along: 35w4d (due August 28)
Total weight gain/loss: +15 pounds (?) over pre-pregnancy weight (I can’t be sure, because I haven’t weighed myself in a while and didn’t pay attention to it the last time I saw the OB)
- Carpal tunnel – hands fall asleep during the night, keeping me awake most of the night. Left hand is almost always numb during the day.
- Sore joints, especially my hands and knees.
- Restless leg syndrome – actually, it’s my entire body that gets restless and a creepy crawly feeling all over just as I try to relax or go to sleep.
- Swollen feet and hands – in this heat, it never goes away, no matter how much water I drink or how much I elevate.
- Nausea has made a comeback.
- Braxton Hicks
- Wicked acid reflux
Maternity clothes: Goes without saying.
Sleep: What sleep?
Best moment: Surprisingly, the baby shower!
Movement: She loves to dance and kick the most when I’m trying to fall asleep at night.
Food cravings: Still none.
Sex of the baby: Female.
Labor signs: No real ones. Lots of Braxton Hicks.
Belly button: Still very much an innie.
What I miss: Wine. Sleep.
What I look forward to: Giving birth and finally meeting our little girl!
Baby buys: Swing and bouncer (on clearance), sheets for the bassinet, nursing supplies, dresser.
Milestones: Baby shower, painting the nursery, finalizing (sort of) our birth plan.