I finally made it to my local Resolve infertility support group yesterday. I had been meaning to go since February, after I stopped seeing my therapist (who basically “graduated” me after just three sessions). I sort of chickened out of the first two months, when I was still somewhat hopeful that I might actually get pregnant. I didn’t want to be that infertile woman who comes to group once, then gets pregnant. (Hey, what do you know? I guess it IS possible to still be naive about some things.) April’s meeting was canceled due to the weather (I was totally going to attend that one, I swear!). Which brings us to May.
I can’t say I had any expectations going into it, since I had never been to a support group before. The thing I most looked forward to was simply meeting other infertiles. I have a great support system in my friends and family, but not a single one has faced infertility. My co-worker suffered for 10 years with infertility, but now that she has kids, she says stupid things like “It will happen when it’s meant to happen.” My online community is awesome, but it’s just not the same when you can’t look into someone’s eyes or touch her arm.
I’m not really sure what to think of the group. I didn’t do much talking, other than my introduction and abbreviated TTC history. It was completely unstructured, so those who were most comfortable and outgoing did most of the talking. As an introvert who was new to the group, I would have greatly appreciated some facilitation. There was a facilitator, a young therapist who herself has experienced infertility. But she didn’t do much talking.
I’m sure I’ll find my voice in the support group if I stick with it, which I think I will. I think it will be nice to have some “real life” infertile friends.